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16 Signs of an Avoidant or Unavailable Partner

16 Signs of an Avoidant or Unavailable Partner : Intimate relationships require balancing closeness and distance, interdependence and autonomy. Healthier relationships flow between these poles with both partners seeking either side of the spectrum at various times. However, when one partner consistently...

Are You a Pleaser? 7 Ways You Sabotage Yourself

Are You a Pleaser? 7 Ways You Sabotage Yourself : Children who grow up hungry for love and who have learned that love is a transaction in their families of origin—a prize rewarded for doing something that pleases someone else and never given freely — grow into adults who take the lessons learned...

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Health4you South Africa April 21 at 11:22am  ·  Feeling frustrated, stuck in your personal life? Health4you would like to recommend Fearless Wolf Life Coaching run by  Ess-jee Rautenbach Ess-jee Rautenbach  helps clients develop life skills in order to get them ‘unstuck’ and move on to a victorious and happy life! He has helped many clients to discover their purpose and find healing in the most hopeless circumstances. Ess-Jee believes that a successful life coach needs both the right credentials as well as life experience in  order to help the client achieve their full potential and assist them to discover themselves! Fearless Wolf Life Coaching can provide guidance and support for those struggling in toxic relationships, help with setting up healthy boundaries and guide clients to learn how to love themselves again! Find all the details about how to contact Fearless Wolf Life Coaching on  https://www.health4you.co.za/…/fearless-wolf-life-coaching-…

Getting Married Is Not An Accomplishment

Now that I have a ring on my finger, I can finally publicly share my opinion that would have sounded plain bitter coming from a girl sans ring. And being officially taken off the market has definitely not changed my stance:  Getting engaged and married is not an accomplishment. -  By Natalie Brooke https://www.huffingtonpost.com/natalie-brooke/getting-married-is-not-an-accomplishment_b_9189828.html?ncid=engmodushpmg00000003

Your True Identity

Do You Long to Belong?

Do You Long to Belong? : As a career therapist, I have sat with clients of all ages who have expressed feeling like an outsider who doesn't quite fit in, a square peg in a round hole, so different from others that they may have come from another planet. Some are adults, some children and teens and what they have in common is a longing to belong. This sense of feeling like an 'other' may have emerged from their family of origin, where they may have grown up as the only artist among athletes, the only introvert among social butterflies, or the only mechanic among PhDs. Being in lock step may have superseded unique talents. And, once they enter school, the expectation to conform may seem overwhelming. During sessions, some have shared a belief that other people have it all together. I laugh with them and relate a story from my own adolescence. Although I had friends in the various social circles (athletes, cheerleaders, student council, drama club, musicians, chess club -- the

The Long Term Effects of Weak Boundaries

The Long Term Effects of Weak Boundaries : Setting healthy boundaries is one of the most popular and important topics that clients and readers ask me about. Stefanie Flores, of The Focus on You, is equally passionate about healthy boundaries. We know boundaries are important, but why do we need...

Why Unloved Daughters Fall for Narcissists

Why Unloved Daughters Fall for Narcissists : At some level, it’s a lot like an Animal Planet kind of thing—all about predators and prey. Just imagine the voice-over with a British accent: “Here we are on the veldt and the gazelle leaps gracefully, not knowing, not sensing that the lion lies...

6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns That Can Keep You From Finding Love

6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns That Can Keep You From Finding Love : If you are seeking true love but have yet to find it, ask yourself whether you may unwittingly be putting roadblocks in your path. These are six self-defeating patterns in romance: 1) Believing that romance is scarce Believing that all the good prospects...

7 Principles to live by

Fearless Soul: Be yourself always. You are unique. Make your own decisions. Everything you need is already in you. Needing nothing attracts everything. Watch Here.....

Empowering vs. Enabling

Empowering vs. Enabling : What amount of love does it take to say 'No,' to set boundaries and allow for people to learn from the natural consequences of their actions? Enough to fill an Olympic stadium. Hard to sit back and watch someone you love self-destruct before your eyes; especially if it is your child, regardless of age. The parents of a mid-20's man find themselves in that unenviable position. This intelligent, creative and loving young man is also, at times at the mercy of various mental health diagnoses including ADHD and OCD. He has been in treatment, but is not always compliant with recommendations and is lax about keeping appointments. His parents and significant other are at their wits' end in terms of how to successfully intervene as his choices and behaviors impact on them. While his intentions may be solid, his follow through is not. They question how they can demonstrate concern without crippling him. This situation is still unfolding. A familiar stor

10 Ways to Manage Unhealthy and Toxic People

10 Ways to Manage Unhealthy and Toxic People : How would you know that a person is “toxic?” Would you know that a person is toxic right away? The word toxic is a very common word in today’s society. It’s even more popular online where you can find millions of articles on relationships... https://blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2018/03/10-ways-to-manage-unhealthy-and-toxic-people/#.Wqv_qoaUg8U.blogger

Are you an Empath? Take the test and find out!

This test scores you on several categories, including: whether  you are an Out of Control Healer, how well you use your own  Empathic Protection Tools, how much you Unconsciously Mirror  other people, and how Logical vs Intuitive you are. Josh Schultz http://www.empathtest.com

Make Your Relationship with Yourself the Most Loving One

Make Your Relationship with Yourself the Most Loving One : You can never escape the relationship you have with yourself, so it's time to make it the most loving one you have.

20 Signs a Lover or Friend May Eventually;Ghost You

20 Signs a Lover or Friend May Eventually ‘Ghost’ You : Relationships that end when one person exits without any explanation and refuses to communicate further can be especially painful. Here are 20 characteristics of people who have a higher tendency to “ghost” others. The more of these traits... https://blogs.psychcentral.com/love-matters/2018/03/20-signs-a-lover-or-friend-may-eventually-ghost-you/#.WqKdmNn8i7Y.blogger

It’s Okay to Disconnect From Toxic People to Protect Yourself

  Lauren Sapala Angry, negative, and toxic people drain sensitive introverts, who need to feel emotionally safe in order to express their true thoughts and feelings. introvertdear.com https://introvertdear.com/news/toxic-people-highly-sensitive-introvert/

Would Jesus go No Contact?

By  Kim Saeed Are we required to forgive an emotionally abusive spouse who clearly has no intent to change?  Would Jesus turn the other cheek to a Narcissist, or would he implement No Contact? https://letmereach.com/2014/07/07/would-jesus-go-no-contact

Be Who You Really Are

Be Who You Really Are : How to Increase Authenticity and Authentic Self-Expression Because you can’t express your authentic feelings to others until you can identify them, engage in the fundamental mindfulness practice of recognizing your thoughts, sensations, and emotions....

Acceptance of Feelings Creates Self-Acceptance

Acceptance of Feelings Creates Self-Acceptance : When we learn how to practice coming home to the body, especially when feeling overwhelmed by too much to do, traumatic life events, or by strong emotions, we develop loving self-care, self-compassion, self-empowerment, self-efficacy, self-valuing, resilience,...

Truth About Spiritual warfare

by Ess-Jee Rautenbach In the Christian culture we live in today it seems that we are a bit confused on what we need to do in our battle with our adversary the devil. Some teach that you got to fight darkness and the other says that demons and the devil got extinct with the dinosaurs. There are so many conclusions on what our responsibility is and what is Gods responsibility and where does the devil fit in, in all this. In this article I will try to show you the right way to battle the enemy and the wrong way. What is the truth around spiritual warfare and how to really have an affect in the spiritual realm? Did you ever come to a point that you ask yourself,”Why am I doing what I am doing”. I have heard numerous people saying that they must pray more, vast more, and then God will move for me in my situation. Is that true, can Gods arm be turned by us reciting prayers to Him? To start of we must start by the right foundation. That is where I will start; the foundation of Jesus

Dear Narcissist, Stop, You

Dear Narcissist, Stop, You : Dear narcissist (or psychopath), Stop, think, breathe, consider the following: You’re likely on the wrong track.  Being inhumane is not normal; it’s a sickness. Your greatest need is to get on board with being human, and that means growing a...

How the Narcissistic Trauma Bond Ensnares

How the Narcissistic Trauma Bond Ensnares : Katrina couldn't believe how her friend was treating her husband at dinner. She was demanding, controlling, domineering, belittling, unrelenting, sarcastic, and unnecessarily rude. For some time now, Katrina suspected that her friend was narcissistic and after the evening they spent together, she was even more convinced. Feeling bad for her friend's husband, she gently confronted him letting him know that she did not agree with her friend's treatment of him. Much to her surprise, the husband minimized the event and said her comments were not that humiliating. There were times when his wife was much worse and this was mild by comparison. His response confused Katrina so she watched and waited to see just how bad things could get. After another gathering, her friend even threw an object at her husband, twisted the truth to make her husband look bad, and called him names. After seeing the dismayed look on the husband's face, Kat

The Female Malignant Narcissist is Just as Dangerous as Her Male Counterpart

The Female Malignant Narcissist is Just as Dangerous as Her Male Counterpart : By Voyagerix via Shutterstock. It is quite easy to overlook female narcissists and their even more ruthless cousins, sociopaths. Since female narcissists engage in the same type of relational aggression that teenage girls do, they can easily fly under...

6 Steps to Emotional Healing after Narcissistic Abuse

7 Toxic Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate

7 Toxic Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate : Humans tend to normalize behaviors of close intimates, tucking certain responses and behaviors into folders labeled “Just the way he is” or “So typical of her.” We do that because, in the moment, we chose to stay in the relationship, even though...

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How to Build a true Relationship with God

By Ess-Jee Rautenbach Hebrews 1; Introduction: God Has Spoken Fully and Finally in His Son 1:1 After God spoke long ago1 in various portions2 and in various ways3 to our ancestors4 through the prophets, 1:2 in these last days he has spoken to us in a son,5 whom he appointed heir of all things, and through whom he created the world.6 1:3 The Son is7 the radiance of his glory and the representation of his essence, and he sustains all things by his powerful word,8 and so when he had accomplished cleansing for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high.9 1:4 Thus he became10 so far better than the angels as11 he has inherited a name superior to theirs. As the writer points out in this powerful scripture, in the old covenant God spoke through prophets but in the new covenant He is speaking through His son who lives today in us. The more I listen to believers, the more I get the impression that most of us are following other prophets and doctrines rather tha

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Leave The Past Behind So You Can Focus On Your Future (Motivational Video)

A Wolf among sheep

A Wolf Among Sheep  EDDIE PINERO  MARCH 18, 2016  MOTIVATIONAL VIDEOS ,   SELF IMPROVEMENT https://www.yourworldwithin.com/portfolio-item/wolf-among-sheep/ They said I’d never get to this point, but here I stand They warned that success is unlikely, that victory is improbable, and maybe so, but if this was for everyone, I wouldn’t want it They pointed to their own limitations and proclaimed them to be mine But that’s the thing about limits; they’ll exist wherever you place them, and I have placed mine behind me Human beings make things unnecessarily complicated Instead of drawing a direct line from point A to point B, we create 100 reasons why it’s too hard, too tough We construct distractions There is no hard, there is no easy There is the goal, the price that must be paid, and the eyes observing from a distance, wondering just maybe, if they could do the same The saying goes that a wolf need not concern himself with the opinions of sheep That those who